Obsessed With Being “Perfect”?

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Sarah Ball & Jessica Bennett
Posted Jan. 15, 2010

What is perfect? Well honestly none of us will ever know because it doesn’t exist. To many people try to fit into this mold that society has created, the perfect body, the perfect hair, just everything physical. To many people are worried about looks and to many people want what they know they can’t have. But honestly it’s good to take pride in how you look but the beauty on the inside is far more important, it will gain you friends and help you get through life a lot happier and easier if you have a good character and are beautiful on the inside. Sadly, though, some people hate themselves so much they go to the lengths of plastic surgery. Many have made this costly decision and it’s very sad because notice it’s called plastic surgery, not only can it go bad but if it does turn out successful you still look plastic, your flaws and imperfections are the things that make you, you. But even though some lean on plastic surgery many don’t go to this extent. Heidi Montag many of us know her off the hills or Laguna beach, she’s beautiful and she seems to have a pretty good life. Then I read that she has had 10 different surgeries done to herself including Botox in her forehead and bow area, liposuction on inner and outer thighs w waist and hips, eyebrow lift, nose job, fat injections I her cheeks and lips, chin reduction, neck liposuction, ears pinned back, breast enlargement and more Botox. It also makes you wonder why would someone go through all that, and they answer is to feel accepted in the “mold” society has created for us and we all need to fit in it or we’re not considered “beautiful”. But in my opinion beauty is in the eye of the beholder and just because you don’t fit into what society says you have to fit into, I guarantee there will be people out there that will like you for you, so don’t change who you are because you think you have to and most importantly just be happy with who you are and just live your life, happily and yes beautiful in your own way. Because let’s face it we are going to make mistakes and there are things about us that aren’t perfect but that’s what makes us, us.

The Right Guy

Wait for the guy that calls you beautiful instead of hot, the guy who will call you back when you hang up on him. Who lie under the stars just to here your heartbeat. OR will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for the guy who kisses you on the forehead, the one who wants to show you off to the world in you sweats. who holds your hand in front of his friends. Who thinks you pretty without make-up. The one who is constantly reminding you of how he care for you and is lucky to have you. The one who turns to his friends and says that's her my baby
-Anonymous

Tell-Tale Heart

Murder. It’s a horrible thing. But have you ever thought of what the murder does to the murderer? With all that guilt and regret eating them away like a tick to a dog? In the story "The Tell-Tale Heart" by Edgar Allan Poe the man in the story commits a horrible and brutal murder, bad, but what happens after is even worse. He goes completely insane. He kind of is a freaky creeper guy that is really scary. But I can’t blame him I guess, imagine being in a house and the only person that was living with you, was just killed by you and now you get to just sit there in complete utterly terrifying silence.

By now your asking well why did he kill someone, that someone being the old man he took care of. Well the man believed that the old man had an “evil” eye, watching him and sucking the life out of him, watching him trying to drag him to hell. So at believing this the old man was slaughtered. His remains were put under the floor boards sfter is he seased to ever even have existed. But then the man says how he kept saying he was hearing this heart beat get louder and louder. Just beat, beat, beating. Him thinking it was some force and the old man coming back to get him or something. But in the end I believe that this whole story is to ironic to be true and maybe that falls with the mode of literature or maybe this story was all just a dream. Also it could have been real and just all the guilt and loneliness and regret was just getting to him and he couldn’t take it. So there lies the question crazy or not? Well in my opinion no, he wasn’t crazy he was just having a major meltdown because he couldn’t live with what he did and it was to much for him to handle. He was fading away into the darkness where no one ever dare to roam.

Through the story though you can see some things coming if you just look at the symbolism. For example when the man is coming down from the stairs to open the door for the police, that could symbolize a fall in power or that something bad is going to happen a fall in happiness per say. Toward the end of the story the “heartbeat” of the old man was just pounding and pounding and got louder and louder he couldn’t stand it and he confessed to the police. I think that it was once again just guilt getting to him and eating him away inside, so then he finally went crazy. One more example is the silence in the house after the murder was committed could symbolize his loneness and that he needs somebody to comfort him. And this could have led to regret which made him feel guilty and sad resulting in the confession to the police.

But either way think about it, what if you were in that situation what would you do? Like him I think personally I would go mad and end up confessing. Especially because I hate silence and I never like to be alone. The moral to the story is obviously don’t commit murder. But most importantly just confess to your wrongs right away it will end the guilt won’t get to you. Just make good decisions and be the best person you can be. Just imagine living with only one persona and that person you just killed and having to just sit there in complete udder terrifying silence.

Happy.....by Leona Lewis

someone once told me
that you have to choose
what you win or lose
you cant have everything
dont you take chances
you might feel the pain
dont you love in vain
cause love wont set you free
i could stand by the side
and watch this life pass me by
so unhappy but safe as could be

CHORUS
so what if it hurts me
so what if i break down
so what if this world just throws me off the edge
my feet run out of ground
i gotta find my place
i wanna hear my sound
dont care about other pain infront of me
cause im just tryna be happy, yea
just wanna be happy, yea

- Happy^^^^^ Leona Lewis

A Best Friend (EDIT)

Have you ever felt alone? Lke the whole world was against you? No one wants to even try because you have put a wall up a defense mechanism, and it's also hard for you to show emotion (crying) in front of anyone because when you cry it makes you feel weak and you know your not weak. But just when everything was going wrong and you were in dark depths, probably the darkest depths the mind is capeable, someone comes along. Someone who gets you and dowsn't think your a freak for your dark past. In fact alot of the stuff she's been through is scary alike, this person will never leave your side, ever. Always has your back and gives the best advice. Who is this mysteriopus person. It's a best friend. This Best friend would take a bullet for me and i for her anyday and we will never leave eachother, we'll be there through thick and thin. This person is like family and i love her with all my heart. She is indeed the definiton of a best friend.

Speak

Life, we love, it, we hate it but we also make or break it. Many say that death is peaceful, life is hard. While that may be true we don’t have a choice; we have to just go along for the ride. But while you're climbing further and further up that huge mountain called life you’re bound to fall at some point in time. That’s okay because that proves you're human; everyone makes mistakes or hits a bump in the road. How we handle it, that shows people what kind of person we are. So be strong and get back up, don’t let anyone tear you down. Your character is who you are, and everywhere you go your making first impressions. So what kind of person do you want to be? There’s always two different kind of people one’s who say I will, and the ones who say I have. The ones who fell, and the ones who got back up. Who are you?
High school is an exciting, fun kingdom for some, but to other’s it’s like a mouse scurrying in a cage of many snakes. Lurking through the halls for a hiding spot in a stone cold dungeon. Most people tell everyone how awesome and fun high school is, between the classes and the trips, but they forgot to mention how vicious people can be. How some talk could ruin your whole reputation, that there are people with what it seems have stone cold rocks for hearts, that will stop at nothing to tear you down and destroy you. Most people forget to mention that. In the book “Speak” by Laurie Anderson a girl named Melinda faces a not so pleasant experience starting her high school year’s. And something I would say that was quiet an understatement of what was just said. Imagine the whole school against you including your once “best friend” and now there is no one in sight that isn’t staring you down with hatred and everywhere you turn it almost seems like their dirty looks are burning in the back of your head. And why? Because half the people don’t care and didn’t bother to ask what happened and some believed a stupid rumor. Plus to top it all off it’s not like she had parents there to talk to or be there for her, she was really and truly alone in this evil judgmental world. It’s just so sad how she had absolutely no one, not even the one person she wanted to tell what really happened, her “best friend” Rachel was there for her. I mean what is friendship, I thought it meant someone who will always be there for you no matter what, someone who will take care of you love you, stand up for you, someone you can talk to and most importantly someone you can tell all your secrets to. But sadly and suddenly Melinda found out the hard way that that wasn’t what her and Rachel seemed to have had no matter how bad she wanted it different. But something that just blows my mind is why would her so called best friend not even bothered to ask Melinda what really happened why did she call the cops on the party resulting in everyone hating her. She just totally ignored her and never talked to her once. And even out of everything else and all the other people Rachel's rejection towards Melinda stung the worst; it hit her like a brick to a wall. And all Melinda wanted was someone she could talk to someone she could tell what really happened.
But what really did happen? Everyone would have liked to know but Melinda just choked up every time It went on for awhile and then one day in art class everyone had to pick a random subject to make but it had to speak to everyone, it had to say something and Melinda picked tree. Which once again tied in with a flashback. Later on in other art classes all the trees would be dark with lightning striking them, this could symbolize darkness and sadness, something bad happened to her. Could she be secretly showing her old emotions to the past? I didn’t understand at first what happened. But it became more obvious toward the middle of the story. For example when she was in science and her and her lab partner David P were dissecting frog and to set it up for dissecting she had to pin up it’s arms and legs and then slice the helpless, lifeless frog open, and then another flashback. I thought about this for awhile how would a frog getting pinned up to be dissected relate to her in anyway resulting in a flashback. Could maybe she have felt helpless like that? Did she get pinned up and was forced to do something? Well no one was sure. But despite all that Melinda needed a place to go, somewhere she could hide and no one would find her. So she found a closet and old janitor’s closet that looks like it hasn’t been used in years. Melinda thinks this is perfect, it’s a place where she can get away from all of her problems. What she finds that stood out to me the most on pages 25-26 is the cracked mirror and the roaches. These are the things that stood out to me because when it comes to symbolism in my opinion the cracked mirror represents Melinda just cracking and her falling apart and sadly it could also represent bad luck, and the roaches with cobwebs represent that she is dead inside and just like the roaches all wrapped in their own individual cocoon like wrappings in the cobwebs symbolizes she like to be alone and isolated ever since the incident at the party, whatever that was. This incident did not only ruin her social life her report cards got worse and worse. But what happened?
Well we still don’t find out until later. But once again Melinda likes to be alone and isolated from everyone. But while she was hiding in her closet so she didn’t have to go to the pep rally, Heather, a new girl at school that liked Melinda just for who she was, or so I thought when Melinda started acting negative toward everything Heather dumped her and started hanging with the “popular girls. Her negative approaches toward everything could reflect on what happened at the party. And what negativity did Melinda give that was the last straw for Heather? Well she went to the pep rally and wasn’t to happy, but she pointed out something very true to me why do all the girls look up to the cheerleaders? There just like everyone else imperfect in many ways she states that “ they will all have abortions before proms from sleeping around at parties”. I thought about that and that made a lot of sense to me. But then the secret comes out. Melinda tells us she was raped by a senior named Andy Evans at that party. When I read this let’s just say it really spoke to me, tears flowed down my face. It’s just amazing to me how someone could be so sick to do a thing like that, and not only that but after feel good about himself and lie to himself and say she wanted it. Although she didn’t say no she didn’t say yes either and that’s just wrong. So to try to get away from the secret and calm down Melinda went back to her closet. But this time she heard footsteps someone opens the door it Andy Evans. HE turns around and locks the door. Melinda’s scared out of her mind her heart is pounding, her body shaking but to choked up to say a word. All of a sudden Andy is saying how she is ruining his life and how she wanted it and she knows it then he tries it again the same thing that happened under the trees at the party. But when Melinda resists he punches her, blood trickles out of her mouth, he grabs her but no she is never going to let that happen to her again. She grabs a piece of glass and stabs him in the throat. Not deep enough to kill him but deep enough to hurt. Then other people come to the door I presume from hearing commotion and see what has happened. Rachel being one of them, is shocked she can’t believe it she says “ why didn’t you tell me” Well because you never asked or seemed to care. But in the end the girls run for help. And I hope that she doesn’t keep quiet and she speaks and puts Andy in jail.
Rape it’s not a word I like or a subject I like to talk about. But many people make jokes and just don’t understand what it’s like. And most victims will never say a word so you could be sitting right next to someone and they were raped and someone’s making jokes and rude comments, honestly grow up, it not funny at all. Victims at the time feel helpless like it’s just them and the peron(s) in the whole world and no matter how loud they scream, kick, jump, bit, scratch, nothing works and they just have to take what’s given to them. It’s a horrible thing that no one deserves to go through. So if your one of those people that makes it’s not funny so grow up and stop. If you’re a person who knows someone who got raped just be there for them and try to comfort them, because that’s all you can do